3 Reasons why Its okay to stay Single and Unmarried

As a teenager I often smiled at the idea of falling in love meeting that perfect guy who will sweep me off my feet just like in the movies. I could see the chemistry between two love birds and despite the fact that it’s just an act and I was well aware of that, I used to get excited over it. And hope that one day that girl would me. I wish that could have changed a few years and a few heartbreaks later but it hasn’t.

A friend of mine recently told me that love is in the mind and that whoever has it in the heart is bewitched. Well I don’t if he is right or wrong you be the judge because I have seen my fair share of disappointments when it comes to relationships and that kind of stuff. I want to believe otherwise and that there are genuinely good guys out there. But it’s all complicated.

And so I thought that ending up alone would be the saddest thing that could ever happen to me and that I have to have someone to grow old and share my life with but it’s not. Am in my twenties now and am very much okay with the idea of staying single and unmarried. 

One day you are so attracted to your spouse and you want to spend the rest of your life with him and the next you start wondering what you saw in him/her in the first place. I try to understand why but I just can’t the truth is life is really just complicated. It never lasts no matter how good it feels. Within a few days or months or weeks something changes and the chemistry is no longer there. And you just can’t force it.

However,I can’t deny that the thought of having a family and being happily married is really pleasant but am not about to end up stuck and miserable with someone am not compatible with, just because a girl is supposed to aspire to marriage. Am going to take my time in choosing or waiting for my life partner, though it’s okay if I don’t find one because it’s my happiness that counts . Sometimes you just have to go with the flow, accept when things don’t work out and move on with life as if it never happened.