How to overcome the Fear of rejection and Disappointments

I did something, something that made me lose sleep for the better part of the night. Failing scares the buh-Jesus out of me.

I dared to dream, I actually put myself out there when every fiber of my being was telling me that am not good enough, that I don’t have what it takes to make it like the others. 

The realization that I do care what others thought about me totally caught me off guard. I actually would care if anyone thought that I wasn’t up to the task when deep down I knew that I have what it takes. I would care more if someone judged my ability without giving me the chance to prove myself. 

It was so obvious that I didn’t have a bunch of years of experience but I still did it, in pursuit of my dream job. As simple as it sounds, what I did got me out of my comfort zone.

For a moment there I got paralyzed with fear, uncertainty, and lots of what ifs? What if they thought that am not good enough? What if they laughed behind my back at how naïve I am? What if they look me in the eye and tell me that I don’t have what it takes? What if they think that am too young? I was losing my mind.

 Amidst my worries I remembered two of my favorite quotes:

"Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear" Brian Tracy

“In the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take, the relationship we are afraid to have and the decisions we waited too long to make”

I don’t want to be a statistic; I don’t want to be counted among those people who never took the chance to fulfill their dreams. That’s why I stopped feeling like crap for having the courage to do the extra ordinary. I realized that it won’t hurt to try and I also didn’t want to look back a few years later and regret. I did a good thing, a bold one at that; not everyone would. 

Then I thought to myself that if I get it good, if I don’t I will keep trying and maybe even get a better opportunity because I have finally grown some balls and faced my fears.

Don’t overthink it, do it. Apply for that job, that tender, start that business, vie for that political sit and go after that girl or guy that you have always liked. Do what you have to, but don’t let the fear of being rejected or disappointed get between you and your goals. If you do, you may never forgive yourself; if you don’t try you may never know what would have come of it; and if you don’t make mistakes you may never learn.

What to do.

Silence that little negative voice in your head because you are capable. But how would you know that you are?? You haven’t even tried! # Life Lessons.